When both parents display symptoms of depression, adolescents tended to show increased behavioral problems. All of my friends were waiting for me outside on the wall, which is right outside of BigB’s. When a child has cancer, understanding the plan for treatment, the potential impact treatment might have on the child's day-to-day life and the family can help parents cope and begin to plan for the future. For my family, cancer was the bump in the road that we drove right over, laughing and singing all along, and then forgot about a couple miles further. Older siblings, most especially the daughters, are commonly expected to fulfill the role of being the family’s “tagasalo.” Daughters are groomed at an early age to assist in tasks which are domestic and nurturant in nature, such as household chores and caretaking duties. She meant so much to me. In the Filipino culture, daughters are reared to help out in domestic chores and assist the mother with her duties (Liwag, Dela Cruz, & Macapagal, 1998). The breast is the most common cancer site among Filipinas. 1st Jan 1970 Thus, the patient and his family are confronted with overwhelming changes which they have to adjust to. It is a really scary thing. Or maybe the idea of not having one of my loved ones around would help me treasure all the time I have with them. They based this suspicion on the mood and behavior changes in their mother. The adolescents felt that they did not have control over the outcome of the diagnosis and treatment, which in turn also affected the moods and accessibility of both parents (Davey, Askew, et al., 2003). You can view samples of our professional work here. She is always willing to volunteer and help the needy. My daughter on the other hand I see the emotional effects of cancer on her now. It wasn’t until I was completing my college applications that I realized what little effect my mom’s stint with cancer had on me. In some cases, nuclear families who belong to the same clan reside in separate dwellings which are close in proximity. This favorable social functioning may be attributed to the strong social support which the adolescents actively seek and maintain. My mom’s doctor simply labeled cancer as an infectious disease caused by the abnormal division of cells within the body that affected people all over the world; however, in my life, cancer became the reason why my world froze and an illness forced me into adulthood at the young age of fourteen. Mothers with cancer are forced to shift their role from taking care of their family to the one being cared for. All the things I could have done—taken care of my siblings, gotten myself ready for school, made dinners for the family—I didn’t. This is because the entire family is affected if something happens to its member, regardless of whether this occurrence is positive or negative. These families are put in a predicament wherein they have to adapt with the changes and stresses brought about by maternal cancer. But even with the effects of her disease so apparent, what was hurting my mom never bothered me. happen. Increased crying, clinging, difficulty in sleeping, and changes in the intensity of talking were some of the behaviors which children engaged in after their parent was diagnosed with cancer (Visser et al., 2003). A role change initiated by one member will alter how the rest of the members play their roles. This forced them to put other aspects of their lives, such as studies, work, and heterosexual relationships aside. The children shared that they had difficulties in dealing with their ill mother’s emotional outbursts. Some of the possible symptoms of cancer are abnormal bleeding, blockage in the bowel, excessive weight loss, pneumonia, excessive fatigue, changes in the skin and prolonged cough. Consistent with the worldwide trend, the number of cancer patients in the Philippines is also expected to increase in the coming years. Company Registration No: 4964706. Breast Cancer Made Me a Better Mom, and After My Diagnosis, I Changed the Way I Parented My Son Facing a potentially life-threatening diagnosis of breast cancer taught me …